Having a baby during a global pandemic sure changes a lot of things as many of you know. It changes relationships, how you thought your story might go as a mom, and who you become as a mother. I had a beautiful baby boy at the end of January 2021 and I never thought that part of my recovery physically would also be to recover my mind. My little guy spent a week in the NICU and I was desperate to feel “normal” and connected because my family could not possibly understand what it is like to be a mother in a pandemic AND have your baby not come home with you. I was the first of my major girlfriend group to get pregnant and have a baby and so they just didn’t understand how I was feeling. I really needed people in my life who understood where I was at in my journey and especially who understood the struggle of a NICU pandemic mom.
I kept telling myself I had all the support I needed though—I had my husband, my family and most importantly I thought: “I already have friends”. I realized over time that while these people were all great, they just didn’t get it! I saw something on Instagram about a mom friend app and I thought I’d give it a try. I mean what did I have to lose, right? I thought I’d just see who was on there and I was so glad I did. Being a mom that went through trauma it was so refreshing to have other women know and understand how hard pregnancy, labor, and NICU stays, and being a pandemic mom truly is. We started with virtual meetups and as things have slowly started reopening, I’ve been invited out in play dates. I’ve even met my two new mom besties, Jordan and Shayna. We are in contact daily and I just don’t think I could’ve made it through this experience without them. Ladies, if you’re hesitating, find yourself some other mom friends that get it and get you. It was a life changing thing for me!
If you’re still looking for your mom friends, I found my friends here: